Depression is hard to understand, whether you are experiencing it firsthand or watching it affect someone you love. Because the symptoms of depression can be different for everyone, it is hard to really know where to start in terms of treatment or seeking help for those you love.
Depression is one of the most misunderstood illnesses, in part due to common myths that have been perpetuated throughout history, as well as a general stigma around mental illnesses.
Today, we are busting four of the most common myths about depression.
Myth #1: Depression is a choice.
From the outside, it can be hard to understand why someone is struggling with depression. The truth is that we can never truly know what it’s like to live as someone else, and even if it appears that someone is fortunate and living an easy life, they can be having their own mental struggles. Those struggles are valid, no matter what life circumstances look like. It is important to remember that depression is never the product of a “bad attitude” or chronic pessimism, and it is never someone’s choice. In fact, depression can arise without any event or circumstance to trigger it, the same way that most illnesses do. If you know someone who has depression, be careful not to invalidate it based on what their life looks like from the outside.
Myth #2: Depression is just extreme sadness.
Depression is more complicated and severe than just extreme sadness. It is pervasive, prolonged, and manifests itself in different parts of one’s life. Someone with depression might seem irritable, shy, stoic, anxious, or emotional–and often many people characterize people with depression as being sad all the time. Remember, depression looks different on everyone. No matter what it looks like, it is valid and causing real pain in someone’s life. Even if someone doesn’t fit what your idea of depression looks like, give them some grace and respect that they are struggling.
Myth #3: Depression comes and goes on its own.
Although in some people, depression will subside naturally, in many cases depression lasts for years and does not go away on its own. In order to decrease symptoms of depression, most people need cognitive behavioral therapy, psychiatric medical treatment, or a combination of the two. Behavioral changes like exercise, diet and sleep are also vital in treating depression. Keep in mind that you can’t expect someone to brush their depression off–it takes a lot of work to alleviate the symptoms!
Myth #4: Depression is a product of weak-mindedness.
This is a dangerous misconception that can lead to feelings of shame, and cause withdrawal from personal relationships for people with depression. Anyone can have depression, no matter what kind of person they are. In fact, this misconception causes many people with depression to close themselves off from others and feel ashamed of their illness. Just like any illness, depression is no one’s fault. Do your part to eliminate this stigma by having discussions with your friends and family!
Here’s the thing: depression can result from trauma or hardship, or it could come out of nowhere. Regardless of its onset, depression needs to be taken seriously. It goes deeper than just extreme sadness.
If you or someone you love are struggling with depression, reach out to a licensed counselor. Cognitive behavioral therapy is one of the best tools you can use to combat depression. Call us today at (734) 531-9878!